How Are You Inventing Your Life Today?

"Organisms do not experience the environment, they create them ."
- The easy way, Margaret Wheatley
walking down Lincoln Avenue in Portsmouth, I am struck by the beauty of the day - Forsythia, tulips and daffodils, bright sun, warm breeze - and the freedom and privilege I have to walk in a healthy body, through the friendly neighborhood of its own accord. I think about how much I take for granted, and how easy it is to feel centered and content when life is easy, flowing, and conflict free.
the day before was not so. It was rainy, windy and cold. I have not slept and woke up hot-tempered and irritable. ( Will winter never end ?!), a project I'd been putting off can not be postponed any longer, and I knew I had to finish it, although I had no inspiration for it . My body ached from the hard aikido practice the night before, and I felt tired and without energy. I opened the window and spilled over the potted plant in the floor of my office. And the last piece of my favorite toasting bread mysteriously disappeared from his warehouse. Tomorrow - who knows? As my friend Carol says, life can fall on your head at any time.
So how can I walk my talk, my attitude changed, adjust your goals, and reinvent my life, even when they feel like it? I kept thinking: can do it, this is great, exactly what you're looking for - the perfect opportunities to practice. . . center, breathe, laugh. Of course, it's easy to be focused when things go his way. It was a perfect day for practice -. when they are not
I'm embarrassed to say that it is still difficult. The only good news is that I was able to give myself is that I noticed. I could see was a "pity party", which was a step in the right direction. Friend and colleague, Joy Jacobs, called the ability to step outside of our ourselves and our reactions are recognized meta-communication. My meta-communicator's role is to speak, Hey, Judy, you really have a strong reaction from the plant to fall over. Whoah! Are you sure you want to throw out the window? Right, probably not. 

meta-communicator is insulation between my reaction and my response. It keeps me from getting dragged down emotionally reactive way that I will probably regret it. ability to meta-communication is a sign of emotional intelligence, self-confidence and relevant analogy for self-control. Without the ability to meta-communication, I get lost in the emotion and identify with it. No distance, no separation between me and my mental state, attitude, emotion or sentiment override conscious thought and takes me wherever it wants. I can only talk about emotions again (like this) when I played outside and I regain the ability to see.
Centering wakes meta-communicator. Taking the time literally and figuratively an inspiration - respiration and connect to my source of power - give me time and space to decide if I want to get dragged or not
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pity parties are fun sometimes. I enjoy getting together on the phone or people with special friends. We dressed in our best long-suffering attitude and moan about this event or that person, how much work has to do and so little time. We bring our meta-communicators together, and we laugh at ourselves in the midst of our complaining. It's much more fun to whine in consciousness.
of His Holiness the Dalai Lama said, "If you do not like what's happening in your life, change your mind." How do you like what's happening in your life at this point? I know it can be much more challenging than winter weather in May. However, gently experiment with changing the attitude to life events, and see what happens.
When I am ready and able to do that my mind , everything changes. She begins by noting my reactive conditions.
I'm upset.
Ok - nervous energy. How do I use it in a way that is consistent with my values ​​and vision?
I take charge of it, before you take any responsibility on me.
I started to travel the path of power and presence, rather than reactive way, and regret.
As I place a little padding between my reaction and my response, I take back their power. I again with what is really important. Why am I here? What I want to contribute to the workplace, the family unit, that relationship? What are my hopes for this conversation? How will impact on that meeting?
more sunny days and uplifting moments are on the horizon. However, regardless of external or internal weather conditions, I am protected by the inner spring of insight that is always awake, aware, and there will be switched at any time. I remember everything that I have to be thankful for, including the privilege of disturbing emotions.
How do you make up your life today, this moment? Life is a struggle, or to flow? It is possible that the answers are really up to you.