According to neuro-anatomists, while thinking of the brain matures with age and experience, the emotional brain never matured. So we have two-year-old infant anger tantrums, repeated right through the life of those who do not know any better. Not just a decade tantrums either. We've all read about the 40-year-olds in road rage, and the parents of a child League football games has committed a crime.
The other important thing to know about our two brains - for those who do not want to allow yourself to stay stuck in anger, depression or social anxiety - that the emotional brain, the modern equivalent of our primordial survival instinct, subcortex, activates all by himself. But unfortunately, this is not true reflections of the brain that should come to our aid in these terrible situations.
thinking brain, the neocortex, May very well be activated automatically as a result of learned udruge.Mozak works by learned association (think "salt" and thought "paprika" pops up, I mean "up" and thinks "down" is activated). But on the other hand, can not, too. To be absolutely sure that your brain is going in a direction that will be most helpful in any difficult situation, one must invoke thoughts of the brain as an act of will.
Here's where that old saying: "Freedom of will" is not just ancient cliché. Your brain is your most obedient servant. But you must know how to direct. If you do not know how it works, the unconscious can give your brain the information that you send it whirling in a brain site that does not want to go. Like anger, fear, social anxiety and depression, thanks to his instinctive emotional subcortex.
Start torment of those emotions is the very thing you need to remind you of the freedom of will. "Hey," you can say for yourself. "I'm really upset. Better that from my subcortex and in my neocortex right now." There was never any fear. anxiety or depression in the neocortex.
When you are attacked by anxious fears - and remember, blame the way we avoid feeling a painful feeling of fear. So, even if you are afraid, if you're wrong, and jealousy, and angry at the world (to avoid feeling the pain my fear), say for yourself. "What can I do to help yourself in this situation unfavorable?" It is a way out of the subcortex and the thinking faculty neocortex.
It's not easy to do, or everyone would be rational, laid-back boat sweetness and light. But we are not all sweetness and light. We often have you upset. And because the emotional brain is instinctively and houses of our psychological defenses, we are scripted to pay attention to it in the first place. That is why it is good to have second thoughts about things.
It is not easy to turn away from painful and overwhelming emotions when they simply do not know what to do next. Unchecked emotions we freeze in the old holding patterns, such as denial, blaming, withdrawing and throwing tantrums. It was a very emotional meaning. E-motion, no movement, we are frozen in fear, with no funds going forward.
Emotion is the easiest thing in the world to do because it is instinct, and not willing to conduct. Rational thinking takes more effort. This is bad news. But the good news is that you need to know exactly what to do to help yourself.
thinking brain has everything you need in the memory banks to help you. You just need to jumpstart the process of asking your opinion will help the brain, so that they do it a second thought (and not just slamming into the car just to your parking), speaking for myself, "Now, hold on, what can I myself help me here? What is a positive option? "When you ask your brain to question, it will do its best to come up with an answer for you. And it's usually a better answer than Road Rage.
When you turn away from your emotional brain and ask yourself what is positive, a small thing you can do to help in this situation bad, your brain will come up with something. You can trust your rational brain to come up with something that will be better than to upset or anger and fear. There is always something more appropriate than the fear and upset to do.
To ensure that your brain comes with better and better solutions for problems in your life, you always have to be a useful programming information into your memory banks can draw on later. That is why education is so important. That is why it is important to have strong ethical principles and courageous.
Suppose, for example have a weight problem. You are at the meeting and hear someone say that you're fat. Of course, you can get upset and hate skinny person who called you fat. You can withdraw from the group in anger and fear. You can not blame all for being cold and uncaring. Or you can ask yourself: "What can I do to help myself in this embarrassing and damaging situation ?"
you can always turn to the emotional brain and put your thinking brain to work. It would help if, before the time that you previously programmed into the memory bank the principle that a good thing to strive constantly to be a better person. This will help if you have already programmed into your memory banks, what kind of food is more nutritious and less fattening so you could decide then and there, in order to start eating carrots instead of chips.
This will help if you have programmed into the memory bank principle is that negative emotions should not be an option, the waiver of the things that are not good for you is a good thing, they are inconvenienced are good for one character. and a stronger person suffered and survived, but they never suffered at all. This will help the rest of your life, if the program in your thinking brain - right this minute -. If you could invite him and will always come up with some positive alternative to anxiety, anger and fear
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